College relationships are a joke.
Yes, I just went there, so take a deep breath and let me explain.
Most of my life I have been told that I would meet Mr. Right in college. Years later, we would end up like one of those annoying couples who returns to college decked out in our Bobcat gear, reliving the best days of our lives.
That fantasy bubble popped the second I arrived in Athens. And here I am, a junior in college, living the single life again ' despite the fact that Facebook claims, Amber James is no longer single. (Looks like I beat Facebook at its own game.)
But I digress.
This summer I dated a guy, whom I have known since first grade. Well, he practically declared his love for me after date No. 2. While some people wait their entire life to hear those words, it was not as magical as I had hoped. I was freaked out.
At the time, I was not sure if he was trying to get lucky with that line or if he really meant it. Either way, he expected me to reciprocate those same feelings, but I couldn't.
Honestly, at what point in a relationship do you accept cheesy movie lines as real feelings? Do college relationships have enough bearing to elicit more than just a random hook-up?
Anyway, he told me that his life would end if I were not in it. Well, he's not dead ... yet.
Maybe I should have handled the situation better, but no sooner did he return to frat row, he was hooking up with every Susie Stiletto who had Greek letters plastered on her purse. And shoes. And shirt.
What right does anyone have to throw around the word L.O.V.E? By the time a guy actually says 'I love you' (and means it), am I going to care?
People say things because they think they are supposed to, not because they really mean it.
This is not Hollywood, where we are getting paid to act like we are in love with someone ' although multi-million dollar compensations would make breaking up a lot easier.
Love is not a cookie-cutter Cinderella romance; our words should reflect what we mean, not just what we want to say in one moment because we think it's expected of us.
To be honest, I did not want this guy to declare his love for me ' at least not at that moment in our relationship. He thought that's what I wanted though. Even if I had, stringing someone along with clich+
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