Hello,
I'm really crushing on a person in a lot of my classes. I don't know if I should tell them or make a move because I don't want things to be awkward in classes after things don't work out. Should I go for it and deal with the possible weird moments in the future or should I just keep it to myself?
- Study Buddy
Study Buddy,
If I were you, I would avoid this sticky situation at all costs. Unless you're actually in love with this guy (as in, going to marry this person), it's probably not worth ruining the friendship, assuming you have a friendship.
A lot of people say the best relationships spawn from pre-existing friendships, but I don't typically agree. While it seems great in theory, sometimes all the benefits of dating a friend can really work against you.
I suppose some people like the aspect of their partner knowing so much about them or whatever, but it kind of takes the fun out of dating and getting to know a person. I mean, it's great to be with someone who knows you really well, but if you've had a close friendship, you might have told him or her more than they need to know as your significant other. Clearly, you shouldn't lie to your partner, but there are some things you probably don't want him or her to know in detail, such as the identity of your drunken weekend make-outs.
Aside from that, it sounds like you already have some doubt as to whether or not your crush is going to reciprocate your feelings. This kind of rejection is way different from that at a bar or party, obviously because you still have to see this kid, probably every day. There's a possibility the two of you could not feel awkward at all if things were to go awry, and even if you did, that awkward feeling could go away after a while, but if you're that worried about it, is it worth it to take the risk?
It's kind of like dating people you work with - there's a reason some places have rules against it. Not only would it be distracting to have the love of your life in every single class with you (not to mention seeing him all the time will get really annoying), it has the potential to make the people around you uncomfortable. Plus, everyone will be really uncomfortable should things go downhill.
Sometimes the risk might be worth it, but it doesn't sound like you're very confident in the outcome. In that case, itÂ's probably better to keep your study buddy just that.
- Mallory Long is a junior studying journalism and women's studies. Ask her your questions about sex and love in the culture section of thepost.ohiou.edu, at postpillowtalk@gmail.com or follow Pillow Talk on Twitter at @post_pillowtalk.
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Mallory Long
