Dear Pillow Talk,
I recently started dating a girl, but she just told me she had sex with her ex-boyfriend a couple of weeks before we met. She says she likes me and that it was nothing, but I don't know if she is being honest. Should I be worried?
Sincerely,
Two Weeks Notice
Two Weeks Notice,
I don't think you have anything to worry about. Until your girlfriend gives you a reason not to trust her, you should.
Focus on the positive: She told you the truth from the start. She could have easily just said nothing to you about what she did when you weren't dating. By no means did she have to tell you about anything she did before you started dating (as long as they don't affect you), and I think it's considerate that she did so.
A good friend of mine dated a boy who lied a lot. He wasn't really a shady guy - he only lied about little things, and most of them didn't have anything to do with their relationship at all. Regardless though, the fact that he would lie at all plagued their relationship and eventually resulted in their break-up. This story might seem irrelevant, but I'm convinced honesty, such as your girlfriend has given you, would have really helped (maybe even saved) my friend's relationship.
I'm a firm believer that exes are exes for a reason. Sometimes things happen between exes and maybe old feelings come back for a night, but it doesn't mean they have any intention of getting back together or really even care that much about each other anymore. If your girlfriend thought that hook up with her ex was going to result in the revival of their relationship, she probably wouldn't have started dating you at all.
Honesty can be a difficult thing in a relationship, so don't punish your girlfriend for being open with you. Let her know how much you appreciate the honesty, and then be honest with her about your concerns. Although it might mean sometimes she tells you things you don't want to hear, you'll know she's not hiding things from you.
@ThePostCulture
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