Dear Pillow Talk,
A few years ago, I started dating a guy who was a year older than me. It never turned into a serious relationship, but we would still see each other occasionally until he graduated last spring. He moved across the country after graduation, but we still talk all the time. I enjoy talking to him a lot, but I'm confused as to why he's still contacting me from thousands of miles away. I don't know what he wants from me. My friends don't really like him, and I know they don't think I should still be talking with him, but I feel like I can't cut him out of my life that easily.
Thank you,
Long Distance Dilemma
Long Distance,
The best way to get the information you want is simple - ask him. It seems you've known each other quite some time, so I imagine you're both comfortable enough to be straightforward and honest.
However, I encourage you to decide what you want from him before you start asking questions. Sometimes, it's hard to let certain people go, even if you think pursuing a relationship is out of the question. Though, if you're not having drama or getting hurt and the feeling to stay connected is mutual, I don't see any reason to cut him off.
As far as your friends go, let's just say they don't know everything. Although their concerns about this guy might be justified - and I'm sure they dislike him because they don't want to see you get hurt - your friends still don't know your relationship in and out. They don't see every side of your relationship, so if the only stories you ever tell cast a negative light on him, you shouldn't be surprised that they would be wary.
If you want things to change, try being more open with your friends about your relationship and let your friends know that you would appreciate it if they could be supportive rather than critical - it is your life. They might come around once they see your relationship a different way.
- Mallory Long is a senior studying journalism and women's studies. Ask her your questions about sex and love in the culture section of thepost.ohiou.edu, at postpillowtalk@gmail.com or follow Pillow Talk on Twitter at @post_pillowtalk.
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