The Post’s resident sexperts talk about what to do and what to avoid when it comes to casual sex in college.
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Hooking up is hard to do when you’re new, so start here: hit the parties, occasionally (so like four/five times a week) go to the bars and hope you find “The One” — or “The Next One.”
Here’s a few Do’s and Don’ts you can comb through in between your time bar hopping and crappy pickup-line dropping.
The Do’s: Talk to new people at parties. Everyone’s there to have a good time and it’s college. There are infinite things you could have in common with that cute person looking at you from across the room.
Relax. Don’t grip your Natty like it’s your only grasp on reality when talking to a potential hookup. College is stressful enough without you bringing your stress into clutch time.
Finally, be yourself. Everyone can sense when someone is being fake and no one appreciates it, so show your true self. You might just meet someone similar and end up talking about it over missionary — you know, if you’re into that kind of thing.
The Don’ts: Never hookup without using protection. Odds are you don’t know this person very well and life is better without worrying if that persistent itch might warrant a trip to Hudson.
Don’t be that annoying person who blows up people’s phones. When was the last time you were more than 10 feet from your phone without staring at it the whole time? If they like you, they’ll respond and if not, that’s life.
Don’t obsess over it. Enjoy yourself without becoming Barney Stinson. College is hard and there is no better stress reliever than waking up next to someone you don’t know and trying desperately to remember their name as you gather your clothes and slip out the door.
Kellen Becoats is a junior studying journalism. Have a question about how to hooking up with someone? Email him at kb749012@ohio.edu.
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In the world of dating, there are endless do's and don'ts. When it comes to simply hooking up, there's a lot less to worry about.
Let's start with the don'ts. A major one to discuss would be don't make it awkward. This is a biggie, folks. You never know whether you'll end up in the same class in the future or have mutual friends — the ways in which your worlds could cross again are infinite. Class already sucks enough as it is so don't make it any harder on yourself.
As for the do's, the best advice I can give in that department is just DO IT. As long as you're being safe and not doing anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, just do it, and don't think so much about what anyone else might think or whether you'll regret it in the future.
Being judged for promiscuity is one of society's biggest flaws, in my opinion, especially with all of the other added pressures weighing on us. Don't let what people might think get in the way of pursuing something you want, and that applies everything in life. College is about finding out who you are and what you like, and that definitely applies to the bedroom. I'm not saying throw your baby-makin' parts to the wind, but do what makes you happy. If you're in the mood, do your thing, and remember, kids, safety first.
Abbey Peyton is a senior studying broadcast journalism. Any advice at all, send it her way at ap384611@ohio.edu.
