Pillow Talk,
What is the best way to approach women and start a conversation? I have no problem carrying on a conversation with a woman once we've started talking, but I always struggle over how to break the ice. I usually try to meet women at bars on the weekends, but I don't want to seem like a total creep who doesn't know what he's doing.
Thanks,
Looking for an Icebreaker
Looking,
I want to start by saying that generally, bars and parties are terrible places to try to meet people, at least in Athens, as these places are loud and rather chaotic. It's not shocking to me you're having trouble starting conversations with women in bars; it's shocking you're able to talk to them at all considering most bars are usually blaring some god-awful Rihanna song to drown out the drunken screeching of those who have had one too many Long Island Iced Teas.
Although I don't think bars are the best place to try to meet people, I can't say that no one ever met another person worthy of their time at a bar, and if a bar is really where you think you'll meet someone you're interested in, that's where you should keep looking.
I think the way in which you approach a woman depends a lot on your own personality, but I think the best and safest way to approach someone you want to talk to could simply be to walk up to them and say, Hi. Introduce yourself.
It might not be funny or really even creative, but it definitely conveys that you'd like to talk, without turning you into the creepy guy who runs around asking women how much a polar bear weighs. For the record, though, those cheesy pick-up lines are acceptable as long as you recognize how ridiculous they are at the time you're using them - someone will appreciate your humor.
I don't think there's any trick to approaching women other than treating us like humans and being a little perceptive. Guys only get labeled as creeps when they pursue women who aren't interested in them. If you approach a woman and she's cold, move on and focus on meeting someone who seems more interested.
- Mallory Long is a senior studying journalism and women's studies. Ask her your questions about love and sex in the culture section of thepost.ohiou.edu, at postpillowtalk@gmail.com or follow Pillow Talk on Twitter at @post_pillowtalk.
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