How do you tell the difference between a shy guy and a guy that’s just not into you?
--Pulling Petals
He loves you or he loves you not, eh?
Well, that certainly sounds like a question for an expert … mind reader.
There is no way to tell for certain, but there are signs (this column is not about diagnosing STDs).
If I was talking to one of my girlfriends, I would say, “He’s so totally shy. I mean, you are gorgeous. So, obviously he is intimidated.”
But if talking to a total stranger like you, I would say, “He’s so totally shy. I mean, you are gorgeous. So, obviously he is intimidated.” Because I am a super nice person who just always says nice stuff like that.
Like I said, though, there are clues. I’ve watched He’s Just Not That Into You too many times to not know. Does he ask about you? Does he generally seem interested in what you say? Has he ever made a move? Does he utter words?
He could like you or at least be curious, which might have killed the cat but, hey, men are not felines.
Him not asking you out does not mean a negative. Communication is a two-way street and although women are the worse drivers, asking people out is equally scary for both sexes.
If things keep up the way they are, then make a move. The only way to know if he likes you is to ask. (Not if he likes you; the whole circle “yes” or “no” note passing does not work past grade school. I tried last week.)
Ask him to kick it, but not necessarily on a date. Take a breath and ask him to grab a drink at Jackie O’s or explore Bong Hill. Maybe he likes watching the Steelers at Redbrick or grabbing a cup o’ joe. Even Wal-Mart works for spending time together. Also, I hear Lui-Lui’s has bomb, cheap sushi every Tuesday. (These plugs sponsored by both the individual establishments and e-Harmony.)
Sound like the most cliché advice you have ever read? Good. Relationships are fun, fire-y, worthwhile, uplifting, cheesy and, honestly, pretty easy. We are in college, so go have some fun. There are plenty of cool kids on the block.
YOLO.
If he shoots you down, remember: “He’s so totally shy. I mean, you are gorgeous. So, obviously he is intimidated.”
Steph Doan is a senior studying journalism. Need some advice in the bedroom? Send your love, sex and relationship questions to thebedpostpeople@gmail.com.
