In 2023, almost 3,000 people in 44 states said they felt the most comfortable completely naked while engaging in sexual activity with the lights off. Notably, most Americans said they “felt right at home when changing in front of their partners.”
Feeling your most confident while naked can take time. However, your partner can help you feel sexy and unstoppable in your birthday suit, all while respecting your boundaries in the bedroom.
While physical touch is not everyone's love language, it’s a good sign your partner is so attracted to you when they can’t keep their hands off of you. Most importantly, it is not about what happens in the bedroom that defines how much your partner is attracted to you. It is a powerful indicator of your sexual attraction for one another.
A supportive and encouraging partner will do wonders for your self-image. It is OK to have to warm up to each other. Seeing someone at their most vulnerable state, entirely unclothed, is intimidating and feels bizarre at first. Then, you start to desire the sight.
Before this exploration of new territory with a partner, sexually, feeling reinforced by their words and actions that they respect and deeply care for you should be a baseline to all of this. Plus, it is basically foreplay.
The warmup to it all, foreplay, prepares your body and your partner’s for sex. Through increased blood flow and awakened senses, you naturally begin to desire your partner more and more. This is a way to ensure they feel sexy, too. Engaging in erotic talk, sensual touching and passionate kissing are ways you and your partner can savor the moment and enhance overall pleasure.
Communication is key, come on now. Another slightly intimidating aspect is that you must ask your partner what they enjoy during sex. And the best part? Learning their body and what they enjoy, even if they do not know it yet.
When you engage in sexual activity of any sort, you should feel taken care of, comforted and most of all, safe. The person you are “doing the deed” with is someone you have chosen to share this part of yourself with.
Be verbal while in the moment. Speak to one another. Why is it so quiet? Your partner can make you feel more sexy and confident by giving you compliments about how you look or if something feels good. Besides, dirty talk is hot.
It is not only about what occurs during sex that your partner can do to make you desirable. The aftercare is what seals the deal.
A powerful combination of chemicals in the brain makes the experience all the better. In a romantic love connection, oxytocin is released and heightened by skin-to-skin contact. This hormone and neurotransmitter is responsible for the closeness you feel with your partner after sex. So, you can use chemicals as an excuse to spend a bit more time naked in bed.
Intimacy with your partner after your sex-capades deepens the bond you already have with one another. Name a better way to lie down and connect emotionally with your partner. I’ll wait.
The love and admiration of a romantic partner is enough to have you feeling all hot, but I hope not bothered. Feeling sexy and powerful can come from within. You do not necessarily need someone to make you feel this way; however, it is OK to deeply yearn to feel wanted by someone else.
BedPost is a sex and relationship column that does not reflect the views of The Post.
