Being a fraternity girlfriend, I find myself at my boyfriend's quite often, mostly because it is air-conditioned and my dorm is not. I do understand the social obligation of the fraternities, hosting socials and the like, but I find myself thinking, might there be a pox on dating a fraternity member?
For all the newcomers to the world of dating a fraternity brother ' brace yourselves. Countless times I have just walked from one room in the fraternity to another in my sweats, getting ready for a movie night, and the looks I receive from sorority girls ' they may as well tie me up and stone me. But don't you think I should be the one giving you a look? How many of you spend the night there and aren't in a relationship with any of these guys and don't even know most of their names? I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two and a half years; I think there are certain rights I am entitled to! How some of these girls think they can even talk to another human being the way I've been talked at is beyond me. I realize there are very nice sorority girls who don't yell at me for being at my boyfriend's house; if you are that girl, disregard this letter. But if you are one of the other girls I speak of, and you know who you are, listen up, because this is when I get to talk at you.
First off, let me say: How dare you scowl at me and act as though I'm a bad person when girls in your sorority are acting like someone who gets paid to do certain things which will remain unsaid. Secondly, I'll be darned the day half of you can even name half of the guys in the fraternity, all of whom I consider my acquaintances, if not good friends. I could go on all day with these points, but let me get onto a negotiation, a constitution of sorts.
Let me start with your rights. Come over to the fraternity house, trash it, and feast on the loins of the very nice fraternity boys who I consider my friends. All right, now on to my rights! Ladies, are you aware that the fraternity house does not belong to you? Therefore, you cannot kick people out of it, particularly the girlfriend of a fraternity member. I have to say I was very excited to be able to join a sorority and now I am completely turned off of the idea. I know I am not and would never become one of the girls who yells at girlfriends, but I cannot be associated with people who treat another girl in such a bitter manner. Just know that you're not helping your association by keeping girlfriends out of your socials; you're turning off both girls and boys from liking sororities and the girls in them.
Felicia Blake Loaiza is a freshman pre-veterinary medicine major.
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