Going out, then going home with someone can be very empowering. You feel as though you played the game and ended up with your own personal victory.
But what happens when you find yourself, weekend after weekend, not getting that hook up you desperately crave?
It’s not them. It’s you.
There are plenty of mistakes you can make when trying to get into someone else’s bed, but here are the big five:
1. You’re not dressed as attractively as you can be
Although it sucks, first impressions are based on what you look like. And although it may be hard to hear, if you go out wearing an oversized stained sweatshirt and some baggy jeans, no one is going to give you a second glance. It sucks, I know.
Comfort is important. But, if you really want that night to remember, invest in a nice top or button down and some quality dark jeans. Looking good will also make you feel more confident, and who doesn’t love confidence?
2. Your Tinder pictures are horrible
If you’re in the dating app universe, I can almost guarantee you’ve seen it before: The person with pictures still from high school (at prom or at homecoming), the person with one old blurry picture from some drunken night out or the person with one picture, and it’s of their vehicle. Let me tell you, that’s not getting you anywhere.
Take some time out of your day when you’re feeling extra beautiful and take some pictures of yourself. Smile and be happy. Have friends take candid photos of you when you’re having a good time. Soon, you’ll have a great library of photos to use, and you’ll be one step closer to that hookup.
3. You’re being too obnoxious
At the bars or at events, no one likes the person who is bouncing off the walls, dancing on tables, screaming and spilling their drinks everywhere. You may feel less inhibitions if you have more alcohol in you but, let me tell you, it’s not worth it.
When someone of interest to you sees you like this, all they’re going to think is, “They need to go home.” So know your limits, and keep your cool. They will appreciate you more, and you are more likely to get digits by the end of the night.
4. You’re too clingy
Here’s a scenario: You just met someone, and you think you want to take them home with you tonight. So you decide to stay right next to them for the entire night. In the end, they say goodbye to you and they go home alone. Do not be clingy, especially with someone you just met.
You may be thinking how great it would be to get into bed with them and all night this scenario is playing in your head. However, you’re too clingy. No one wants to be glued to someone when they’re trying to have a fun night out. So, give them their space, but still talk to them. Don’t make them your only point of conversation for the night. Make sure you relax and have fun, you may just get lucky.
5. You’re too forward
Everyone loves getting a drink bought for them. But, there’s always the issue of “what does it mean if they buy me a drink?”
First of all, it should mean that someone is interested in getting to know you and nothing more. Buying a drink for someone is never a direct invitation to someone’s bedroom. So, if you think that, please alter your views a little bit.
Also, never tell someone you just met that they’re coming home with you. Don’t be that creep. Be genuine and nice and everything may fall into place.
I’m not saying you need to change who you are in order to have a fun night in someone else’s bed, but these are just things to keep on your radar when you are trying to hook up. Remember, keep your personality and who you are, things should fall into place perfectly.
Happy hooking up!
Hannah Wintucky is a sophomore studying strategic communication and Spanish at Ohio University. What is your favorite method of flirting? Let Hannah know by emailing her or tweeting her at hw333514@ohio.edu or @wintuck.
